I wish you the best Kat!

Sincerely,
Lindsey

I totally get where you are coming from… I have a couple of guy friends who are in your same boat. Although I know nothing about you – except for what you wrote above- I cannot say anything really specific about your situation.

However, I do have one recommendation, if you don’t already have a mentor – a godly man who you meet with on a regular basis who can speak the HONEST truth into your life- I recommend that you find one. Get a guy (preferably a happily married man) who you trust and admire to speak the truth in kindness and see what you both come up with.

Maybe you have dealt with past issues and don’t have the typical “hang-ups” that most singles do (but refuse to accept), but maybe there is something about the way you approach women or the way women perceive you. And maybe, God wants to do things in AND through you RIGHT NOW that He could not do if you were married.
P.S. Do you only date single moms? Just curious as to why, if you do.

Above all else, continue to be the man that Jesus said you should be, and don’t lose sight of God’s role in all of this: Matthew 6:25-34 (Jesus talking)

“For this reason I say to you, do not be worried about your life, as to what you will eat or what you will drink; nor for your body, as to what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air, that they do not sow, nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them.

Are you not worth much more than they? And who of you by being worried can add a single hour to his life? And why are you worried about clothing? Observe how the lilies of the field grow; they do not toil nor do they spin, yet I say to you that not even Solomon in all his glory clothed himself like one of these.

But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which is alive today and tomorrow is thrown into the furnace, will He not much more clothe you? You of little faith! Do not worry then, saying, ‘What will we eat?’ or ‘What will we drink?’ or ‘What will we wear for clothing?’ For the Gentiles eagerly seek all these things; for your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things.

But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. So do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will care for itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. ”

I wish you the best RJ, let me know how things go for you.
Sincerely,
Lindsey

Keep me posted on what happens AND what the Lord shows you in the meantime!

Sincerely,
Lindsey

I have been blessed with the gift of gab, and I am a social butterfly. It’s very difficult for me to sit and wait for him. I am doing my best to keep busy with girlfriends and enjoying every day.

Thank you for writing and for obeying God… your faith has encouraged me and probably everyone you know. The book is definitely marketed toward women, but it is a very important subject for men as well.

Thank you for your thoughts and for writing, God bless you!
Sincerely,
Lindsey

Your panic disorder sounds hard to deal with… and I know rejection can be hard to take. But please hear me out, I am not saying girls shouldn’t ask guys out (or that they don’t ask guys out) because they are insecure. I am simply suggesting that they let the guys initiate. Here’s why: Being a man encompasses many things, and being an awesome husband, so many more things. That said, there will be far more difficult tasks that a husband will face than asking a girl to go on a date with him. By practicing doing the hard things and the things that may initially scare him, he will become a better man in the process.

Sincerely,
Lindsey