Many of us go from one date or dating relationship to the next. We tend to date the same type of person and yet, we expect a different result. Maybe you are getting the same unfortunate ending because you too have believed certain myths about dating. If you can relate with this, or if you want to make sure you have a healthy dating relationship, then this article is for you.
Here are three dating myths that need to be debunked so your next romantic relationship can actually thrive.
Dating Myth#1: Happiness should be the ultimate goal.
Real life can be messy, uncomfortable and down right unpleasant at times. If you are looking for a relationship where you are constantly “happy,” you will be looking for something that doesn’t exist.
When you choose to really invest in someone and make yourself vulnerable with them, you open your heart to hurt. I am not suggesting you look for a relationship where you aren’t happy to be in, just have realistic expectations.
If you are looking to find the love of your life, the one you want to marry, realize that you will also find another imperfect person, who at times will annoy you, hurt your feelings, and probably leave the toilet seat up.
The real goal of dating relationships should be to find someone who you can picture spending the rest of your life with. Someone who, just by being who they are, will continue to inspire you to be loving, selfless, and inspire you to do great things and leave a legacy worth remembering.
Dating Myth#2: You can “fall” in love.
If you believe that you can “fall” in love then you probably also believe that you can “fall” out of love. Personally, I hate this phrase.
Why should love, one of the most impactful, meaningful experiences we have on earth, be something that we handle with clumsy habits? Tripping and falling are things people do when they aren’t paying attention.
The kind of love that is worthwhile will be a journey, intentional, and sometimes out of our comfort zone… but that’s exactly what makes love something that we ought to pursue and be wholeheartedly.
People who “fall” out of love, either never really loved in the first place, or decided at one point to stop loving. This is a harsh reality I know, but instead of cheapening love or lowering it to some haphazard experience, instead cherish it, value it, and never stop loving.
When you find the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, always seek to treat them with the same kind of love and affection that you did when you first felt those feelings.
Dating Myth#3: True love doesn’t exist.
Some people think that finding someone you can spend the rest of your life with only exists in fairy tales, but this is a MYTH. Love, true love, really exists. Sometimes we are too blinded by our hurts, shortcomings, and insecurities to really believe that we could be loved and fully love by someone “until death do us part,” but this love really exist.
Let yourself love and be loved, you won’t be able to control where it takes you, but it will make you a better person in the end.
Lindsey Nicole Isham is a national speaker and author of the book No Sex in the City, the brutally honest and often hilarious story of Lindsey’s quest for sexual purity in the face of a sexually-saturated society. Lindsey is a 33-year-old relationship guru, the ultimate girly-girl, and a PR junky. Read more about her at lindseyisham.com, or follow her on Facebook and Twitter.