My nephew just turned 7 last week and he is so stinkin’ adorable. 

We went to a place called “golfland” and 12 of his friends and their parents joined us for video games and a round of putt-putt.

I was in charge of keeping score and keeping the kids from killing each other! Some of them had quite a back swing and almost took several people out while trying to putt.

The next day while I hung out with my sister and nephew, I heard my nephew whispering something about me to my sister.  When I asked what he was whispering about he said, “My friend who is eight thinks you’re kinda hot.”

What the heck?! Since when do eight year olds think women my age are hot?

But my nephew didn’t stop there, he continued talking about his friend, “He has a ‘girlfriend’ and he wants to kiss her with his tongue and have sex with her (he spelled out the word ‘sex’).

My sister and I were shocked and immediately told him that “you shouldn’t talk about those things with your friends; only married people are supposed to do those things.”  I told him what God says about sex and how it’s between a husband and his wife; I also told him that he didn’t need to be kissing any girls until he turned thirty! Ha… it made my sister smile when I said that.

My seven year old nephew was talking about sex!  Not just the “boys have a penis and girls have a vagina” stuff.  He was talking about kissing with tongue and sex… I didn’t know about kissing with tongue until I was fourteen years old.

If you are an older sibling, be a good example to your younger brothers and sisters.

Parents talk to your kids about sex in a Godly way. Don’t let them watch TV and movies that talk, show, or jest about sex, or tongue kissing.  Ask your kids what they talk about with their friends.  When their friends are over, listen to how they talk and play. Be involved in their lives, be the dominant figure influencing their conversations.

Most importantly, don’t just take your kids to church and think they will “get it”.  Take your kids to church, and mentor them at home.  If you are a single parent, show your kids what it looks like to have a godly dating relationship.  Don’t spend the night at your boyfriend/girlfriend’s place and don’t touch or talk to each other inappropriately in front of your kids.

This stuff seems so basic and straight forward, but my nephew’s friend goes to church with his mom every week. Kids talk and don’t  think that yours is exempt from learning the wrong thing about sex at an early age simply because you take your child to church.

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No Sex in the City
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Lindsey N. Isham
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