What’s it Like to be a Thirty Year Old Virgin?

lindsey-purpleWell, it depends on the day, but seriously, I won’t lie, it’s not the easiest thing in the world.

I am like any other girl who wants to get married, have sex with my husband, and have kids.

I pray for my future husband, wherever he is. Sometimes I wonder what he’s doing and what is taking him so long to find me.

But I don’t always think about being 30 and single. I have a very fun life and I love living it. Yet…I won’t deny that thoughts like, why am I still single? pop into my head. Occasionally ,when I see a family at the beach playing together with the husband hugging’ on his wife, I think, that looks like a lot of fun!

If you are wondering if I wish I would have had sex by now, then the answer is “No”.  I would wait another 30 years if I had to if that’s what it took to wait for my husband.  He’s the only one I want to share those things with.

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Lindsey N. Isham


About Lindsey Isham

Lindsey Isham has been working with singles for over thirteen years and has traveled nationwide, speaking to audiences ranging from junior high girls to collegiate women about relationships and sexual purity.


  • December 10, 2012 | Permalink |

    Praise God for women like you, Robyn!

    I know tons of men and women who feel like they are alone in this battle for purity, so it is great to hear that you too are standing firm!


  • Carol
    February 4, 2013 | Permalink |

    Wow! I love this about you! You are one in a million! Stay strong and true! He’s out there somewhere.

  • March 31, 2013 | Permalink |

    Touche. Sound arguments. Keep up the good effort.

  • December 9, 2013 | Permalink |

    Hi Jake,

    It sounds like your focus may be in the wrong place. God is so good and He loves you so much. Today I encourage you to find things that you are thankful for and start thanking God for those things (out loud). Ask Him to show you how much He loves you as you read the Bible, drive to the store, go for a walk, hang out with friends.

    When we take our focus off of God and put it on ourselves, what we think we need, want, etc., our perspective becomes cloudy and we can’t see how blessed we really are. If you are a believer, and it sounds like you are, remember that you were created to bring glory to God. Never get tired of living a life that does just that.

    Maybe it would be helpful for you to find an older man in your church to mentor you and talk with you to help you through this rough time.


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